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THEIR SIDE, TODAY

Know which phase your ex is in.

They texted. They viewed your story. They went quiet. Tell Valence what happened and get a reading of what it means on their side, and what to do next.

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30
DAYS OF SILENCE
Phase 4 of 11 · Comparison
TRY IT

What did they do?

Pick one. This is a sample reading for someone 30 days after the breakup. In the app, the reading uses your own day count and what you tell it.

READING · THEY TEXTED
DAY 30
Most likely a door check, not a return.
First contact since the breakup No question in the message Short, low effort
ON THEIR SIDE
A month in, the relief has usually worn off and they are comparing. A message with no question in it most likely checks whether you still answer, without asking for anything. A fast, long reply gives them that answer and takes the pressure off them.
DON'T MISREAD IT
It is most likely not an apology or a plan to come back; it is a check on how open you are.
WATCH FOR
If your reply is short and calm, a second message often comes within 4 to 10 days.
YOUR MOVE NOW
Reply once, a few hours later, in one line. Friendly, no question back.
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THE TIMELINE

11 phases on their side.

After a breakup, an ex usually goes through the same stages. The days below are the common pattern, not a promise. Every time you log something they did, your reading adjusts.

  1. 01DAY 0–9
    Relief & Rationalizing
    They feel lighter and keep telling themselves it was the right call.
  2. 02DAY 10–20
    Distraction Mode
    Busy weekends, new plans, full stories. Staying busy so they don't have to think.
  3. 03DAY 21–27
    Curiosity Window
    The first quiet checks. They start to wonder how you are taking it.
  4. 04 · DAY 30 IS HEREDAY 28–41
    Comparison
    Life without you usually gets measured against life with you, quietly.
  5. 05DAY 42–55
    Soft Checking
    A like on something old, a fast story view, a question through a friend.
  6. 06DAY 56–89
    Emotional Dip
    The distractions run out, and missing you usually shows up at odd moments.
  7. 07DAY 90–119
    Regret vs Pride
    They most likely want to reach out, and pride tells them to wait for you to go first.
  8. 08DAY 120–149
    Breadcrumb Testing
    Small, low-risk messages, usually to see if reaching out is safe.
  9. 09DAY 150–179
    Direct Reach-Out
    A real message or a call, usually with a reason attached.
  10. 10DAY 180–269
    Repair Attempt
    If you are back in touch, what could be different gets tested.
  11. 11DAY 270+
    New Baseline
    They settle into a new normal, and the pattern slows down.
THE STRATEGIST

A coach that reads the texts with you.

Paste a message, send a screenshot, or tell it they went quiet. The Strategist tells you what it likely means on their side and exactly what to do. On quiet days it gives you something to do for yourself, not just waiting. When they reach out, it helps you answer.

The Strategist DAY 34 · COMPARISON
They texted "hope you're doing ok". It's been 34 days. Do I answer?
Yes, once. At day 34 they are most likely comparing. A message with no question in it usually checks whether you still answer, without asking for anything.
Answer in a few hours, one line: "Thanks, I'm doing well. Hope you are too." No question back. If they write again, send it to me.
And if they don't answer?
Then you lost nothing: they most likely know now that you're fine, and you start nothing new.
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QUESTIONS

Before you download.

Will it tell me if my ex is coming back?

No app can promise that. Valence tells you which phase they are most likely in, what usually comes next, and what to do so you don't hurt your chances.

Will it tell me to text my ex?

Almost never. No contact is the default. The rare exceptions are one apology for a real wrong, one light message after a very long silence, and practical logistics. When they reach out, the coach helps you answer, and tells you when not to.

How does it know their phase?

From the days since your breakup date and everything they have done since. Each thing you log changes the reading. It is a common pattern, not mind reading.

What happens after the 3 free days?

If you don't cancel, the weekly plan starts at $9.99 a week. Cancel in your App Store subscriptions before day 3 and you pay nothing.

Is this therapy?

No. Valence is a coach for reading your ex's behavior. If you are struggling, talk to someone you trust or a professional.